Get Your Ex Back

Break ups are rarely sudden but most people don’t recognize or refuse to recognize (because they don’t want to get hurt) the stages leading up to a break up. By recognizing some of these signs, in particular the final stages of a break up and taking steps to improve things a bit, you could save yourself a lot of heart break and pain and make your relationship a lot stronger .

Most people don’t purposely ignore the signs of a pending breakup, rather the human psyche is designed to reduce pain and stress, so it is natural to ignore (subconciously) the tell tale signs of the end of a relationship. In reality, ignoring a problem rarely ever makes it go away, in fact it will typically make the situation worse when it you do finally argue about it.

Here are some classic signs that your relationship is headed for a breakup. Some of these may seem obvious,but it is really easy for people to ignore the obvious.

How Much Time Do You Spend Together? Think about how much time your boyfriend or girlfriend actually spends with you. Then think about they are spending time with when they are not with you. Avoidance is probably the number one sign of an impending breakup. If your relationship fits this example, then try to find ways to spend more time together, even if it seems obvious to your partner what you are trying to do. By asking to spend more time together or planning a date, it shows them that you
haven’t given up and want to fight to save your relationship.

Lack of Trust Can Be A Relationship Killer: What is the first thing you think about when he or she tells you where they’ve been? Do you distrust them or does it not even enter your mind to second guess their answer? If your boyfriend or girlfriend questions you all the time about where you’ve been or who you were with, then they may have trust issues with you. If there is a lack of trust in a relationship, things can go down hill really fast.

If you are the one mistrusting him or her, then try really hard not to, because even if you never say anything to their face about your mistrust, your body language will always give you away. If you want to make your relationship work then just have faith. By giving him the benefit of the doubt outright, you will be sending the message that you love him and trust him to do the right thing.

If your partner doesn’t trust you, then make a concerted effort to keep him or her well informed about where you are going and what you are doing. Some people think this is demeaning yourself, but in a loving and trusting relationship, you should want to make sure your partner knows where you are so they don’t have to worry. By making an extra effort for awhile about informing them about your day it will send a message that they can trust you.

Lack of patience for you, your hobbies and interests: If you love to watch football and she doesn’t at least try to understand and/or takes it personally that you are not spending time with her, then be careful. Football isn’t the greatest example, but the point I’m trying to make is that in a loving relationship, people at least have a respect for what the other person likes to do even if they themselves don’t like to do it. (Now if you are watching football all the time, then she may have a valid point) The thing to watch out for here is a decrease in his or her patience for the things you like to do. If she was ok with you going bowling with the guys before but now gets irritated or doesn’t want to hear your stories about the big fish you caught on the river…Be Careful!

A healthy relationship should have a certain amount of trust, understanding and respect for each others interests, passions, dreams, sorrows, etc. Showing your partner that you understand this by making a concerted effort to avoid some of the pitfalls I’ve mentioned is an excellent way to make your relationship stronger and avoid the signs of an impending break up.

Don’t lose hope, the key to learning how to save your relationship is putting together a plan and sticking to it. Having a plan is vital to a happy and long term relationship. For free video - “First Steps to Stopping Your Break Up” and a proven plan that will help you save your relationship, please fill in your first name and email in the form below and I’ll give you instant access. Help is just a click away.

I wish you all the best,

Travis Scott

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